You only get one chance to impress your date. Whoever said that first impressions matter a lot, could not have imagined how true their words would one day be. Because your bad dating habits could ruin it all in a jiffy.
These days, when dates are but a right swipe away and someone doesn’t need to be the friend of a friend to have a chance to take you out, such impressions have become even more important. One blind date or Tinder match making game can decide whether or not things are going to go forward.
Both the people involved go into it intrigued and with absolutely no idea what they are going to face. It is just as easy to delight as it is to dismay. Which is why it is important to bring your best form to the game.
One of the first things to take care of is to not unwittingly say or do something obnoxious. A lot of us have some really bad dating habits we are not quite aware of and these are the things that seem to keep the relationships from moving forward.
You might not even know that your toxic dating habits might be making you undateable. You might be wondering why your date becomes so unresponsive after meeting you then let us tell you where you are going wrong.
So, just in case you have a date coming up and you really want it to work out, here’s a list of bad habits that you should get rid of before you meet your would-be bae and work on some healthy dating habits instead.
7 Toxic Dating Habits You Need To Always Avoid
There are some common bad dating habits that you might be indulging in repeatedly but you are not even aware how toxic it’s making the dating experience.
You might not be doing it in a pre-mediated way or even consciously but you are not even aware how it’s putting off your date. These habits are actually deciding your dating life and it’s not turning out well. So how should you avoid these bad dating habits and instead indulge in healthy dating habits? Let us tell you.
1. Humble bragging is disastrous
You know you have met one of them when they cannot stop talking about how much money they earn and how successful they are. They just won’t shut up and let you talk. All they try to establish is what a good catch they are.
If you are one of these people, please reconsider spewing all that information and letting the person in front of you speak. I am pretty sure they are interested in you. That is why they agreed to go out with you, after all.
But if they were just interested in how much money you make, they would have just requested your salary account details and asked you to shut up. So talk about the more interesting things in life. Your hobbies, motivation, life, death, God and atoms. And give them space to talk too. And yes, ask your date some interesting questions.
2. “Wait, let me finish!’ – No way!
Everybody appreciates a good listener. I am pretty sure you do too. So if you just refuse to listen to them and impatiently wait for them to finish so you can start speaking again, it’s really off putting for the person facing you.
Listen well. Encourage them to talk. Make intelligent remarks and don’t interrupt. Soon, they might open up and you will find yourself at the start of a beautiful and healthy relationship.
Not listening carefully and jumping from one topic to another trying to cover everything at one go, is a common bad dating habit that you should avoid at all costs. If your date has to tell you, “Wait! let me finish,” you know why you are not making any headway in the dating scene.
3. Silence can be killing
As important as it is to listen and give them space, it is equally important to interact and communicate. Silence has often been called golden but not in such cases. If they are the only one talking, they might either think you are bored or might find you boring themselves. Awkward silences can prove to be toxic for a date.
7. Don’t act like someone you are not
Dress well, but don’t overdo it. They came to see you, not India’s top model. Behave like you normally do. Don’t try to oversell yourself. If you act like someone you are not, even if the date goes well, they will realise you were pretending, sooner or later. Avoid that mess and just be yourself.
The dating scene is pretty hard these days. No one has time to offer you more than one chance. If you mess up once, it is done and there is no going back. So instead of dating one person after another and wondering why it never seems to work out, try changing all of these bad dating habits and sooner or later you may just find The One. Till then, good luck. And happy right swiping.
